It used to be unusual to include a family dog as a part of the wedding ceremony. But nowadays the Rex-as-ringbearer gag has been done so much that it hardly raises an eyebrow. Instead, it's the iPod-as-DJ that turns heads (and gets feet tapping). It makes sense to include digital music players in the celebration — after all, people spend as much time with gadgets as they do with their spouses. Shouldn't they be invited to the wedding too?

When my wife and I were looking to cut costs from our reception budget, the first move we made was to become our own DJ. By mixing wedding standards with our favorite songs, we made a great playlist for our reception. Many guests said it was the best music at any wedding they'd been to — some even asked for a copy of the music on CD. For compiling a playlist to remember, try these tips:

Most couples use 'their song' for their first dance — but why stop there? Every couple has unique taste, and there's no reason to keep that bottled during your reception — it will give the festivities your unique brand. Go ahead and include favorite songs from your favorite bands and cover versions of classic tunes. But stay away from live renditions; the 8 minute guitar solo in “Free Bird” is an awkward time for everyone.

If there was ever a time for “We Are Family,” your wedding reception might be it. But say you're not a fan of Sister Sledge, and I'll tell you to swallow your pride and to play that funky music anyway. Aunt Patty and your childhood neighbors the Culpeppers need songs they are comfortable with to get them onto the dancefloor. Here's some 'must adds' for your playlist:

“Love Shack” by the B-52s

“The Way You Look Tonight” by Frank Sinatra

“The Y.M.C.A.” by The Village People

Great wedding receptions start strong and rage into the night. Your soundtrack should do the same. Start with the cocktail hour by selecting strong -- but not necessarily fast -- music to set the tone. Instrumentals and classical music work great here. When it's time to get dancing, signal it with one of those get-out-of-your-seats party songs. (Stevie Wonder's “Signed, Sealed, Delivered,” or The Beatles “Twist and Shout” will get any party going.) From there, create cycles of songs that gradually increase the tempo, building up a frenzy on the dance floor.

You can't keep cranking up the pace all night long — that's called jazzercising, not celebrating. Sometimes you need to give a nod to cousin Ned, who doesn't dance unless it's a slow song. This allows revelers to recharge as well as let's non-disco dancers participate in the party as well. Al Green's “Let's Stay Together” let's the air out of the dance floor wonderfully, without completely deflating the party.

Don't be afraid to put the Top 40 in your playlist. Guests will recognize the songs, little cousins will go bonkers, and you'll look like an expert DJ. If you want a great moment for the wedding video, slip Rihanna's “Umbrella” (or any other current, catchy song) into your wedding soundtrack. Put it late in the night after Aunt Rose has had her fill of white zinfandels. While it may not be a great song, it might be a great moment — and that's what the wedding reception is all about.